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Why it's not the end of the world if you aren't selected into your first choice college
By David Wise
January 21, 2013
There is a lot of stress and anxiety about college applications - Will I get into the college of my choice? If not, my life will be ruined. This is the kind of stress and worrying that people find they are dealing with.
While it's not ideal not to succeed at something you had your heart set on, it's the way you deal with adversity that makes the difference. Let's say you had your heart set on studying Law at Harvard. Just because you got admitted there isn't a guarantee for anything. Who knows? You could have had a miserable time there. Is that worth it just so you could tell me that you graduated from there?
Furthermore there is no guarantee that you would like your fellow students and get on well socially with them. Sometime you have to be careful what you wish for and find that what you wanted wasn't good for you.
A person who is applying for college is usually young and when you have so much of your life ahead of you, talk of it being the end is crazy. It's just the beginning!
What can actually happen is that a person not getting into their college of choice is actually a blessing in disguise. Instead they have no expectations and will work harder at their studies and to integrate. With hindsight they could come to appreciate that it was actually better them not being admitted.
Dealing with adversity and doing so at an early age is a good life lesson. It's not true to think that those who are most successful in life don't have any adversity to deal with. Rather, it is because they are the best at dealing with adversity that they're so successful.
Later on in life, due to this early setback these people aren't as thrown or rattled when things don't go their way. They are more resilient and have a better time thinking on their feet. A person who isn't used to dealing with this will find it a massive shock when things don't go well for them which could take years to recover.
There are thousands of colleges across the world and the experience you have there is as much down to you as it is to them. You aren't owed anything and it is up to you to extract from it as much as you can. If any college rejects you, instead of sulking about it, use it as inspiration to make a mockery of the decision.